Let’s talk about why children should be doing the family chores from a young age and how to get them started. Make sure you read to the end for our list of age-appropriate chores for kids aged two to teens.

If you’ve ever debated whether or not you should assign chores to your child, research is saying you should introduce kids to household chores from an early age.

The Harvard Study of Adult Development is really two studies that ran simultaneously. The Grant study examined 268 Harvard graduates from the classes of 1939 to 1944 while the Glueck study consisted of 465 men who grew up in poor Boston neighbourhoods. Both studies observed the participants over a course of 75 years to see what variables and processes early in life could predict health and wellbeing later in life.

Two things were identified as essential for people to be happy and successful:

  1. Love
  2. Work ethic

Researchers then determined that chores were the best predictor of which kids would become happy and successful adults. Children who were already accustomed to doing chores were more likely to take initiative, be able to work independently and adapt to difficult circumstances.

A 20-year study by the University of Minnesota in the US had similar results, finding that doing chores from the age of three is the best predictor for a good education, healthy relationships with family and friends and also a good career. “Involving children in household tasks at an early age helps them learn values and empathy as well as responsibility,” explains Dr Marty Rossmann, emeritus associate professor of family education at the University of Minnesota. “It is important for children to internalise values when they are young because household responsibilities continue to play a significant role throughout one’s life.”

Printable chore chart – article

Dr Marty goes on to point out that managing household responsibilities can be the biggest cause of stress in marriages, therefore children should learn these skills from an early age.

Marriage probably sounds pretty far away when you’re a child but Dr Marty makes a valid point. Many of the chores children are asked to do are the life tasks that they’ll need to survive one day. Nobody will ever pay you to empty your own rubbish bin or to vacuum your dusty carpet. If children don’t learn how to fold laundry or even cook simple meals when they’re young, how do they expect to cope when Mum and Dad are no longer around to do the heavy lifting?

As Julie Lythcott-Haims says in her book How To Raise An Adult, having to fit in chores can help children learn how to manage time: “When they’re at a job, there might be times that they have to work late, but they’ll still have to go grocery shopping and do the dishes.”

Having kids do chores also models the important values of teamwork and respect. When children take on household responsibilities, they’re contributing to the wellbeing of the family as a whole and being part of a team. And you can’t scrub a dirty toilet once without feeling a healthy dose of appreciation for the person who does it most of the time.

Young boy sitting on floor holding a dustpan. Sweeping is one of the many age-appropriate chores suitable for preschoolers.

How to get kids to do chores

According to American parenting and child development expert Dr Deborah Gilboa, children as young as 18 months old can and should get involved in household tasks such as sweeping with a brush and dustpan. It’s all about finding the right age-appropriate chores.

In 2014, appliance manufacturer Whirlpool commissioned a poll of 1001 parents. They found that 82 per cent of respondents grew up doing chores but only 28 per cent regularly assign age-appropriate chores to their own children.

When the parents who did assign chores to their own children were asked how their kids felt about their responsibilities, 43 per cent said they complained about them. 37 per cent tried to get out of them. And 13 per cent said their children would only do chores if they were paid.

If you don’t want to go through the process of arguing with your children over chores, the following list of tips will help get them involved in doing chores.

1. Start young

Younger children (under six years old) are dying to be just like Daddy or Mummy and often offer to help. This is a golden opportunity. Use it. Some creative thinking may need to be involved when coming up with the right chores for this age group: The task you’re doing may be dangerous, or perhaps involving your child will increase the mess quotient or take longer. But try to find an aspect of the task that the child can safely do.

If you’re peeling potatoes for example, form a small production line and ask the child to take the rinsed potatoes out of the sink, shake them off and put them in a bowl.

Little events like this through the week will blur the line between work and play and begin to build positive habits. It’s brainwashing, but in a good way!

2. Make it age-appropriate

Our free age-appropriate chores printable below will give you some ideas, but the premise is this: Begin with simple, safe tasks under supervision. Then look for opportunities for them to complete a short task without you in the room but let them know you’re coming back in just a minute to see if they’ve completed it.

For example, kids of all ages can get involved in the garden. Younger kids can water the plants while older kids can pull weeds or transplant seedlings to a bigger pot.

Of course, when a child is learning new things that involves a safety risk—cutting up fruit with a knife, for example—they should have close supervision. Hover at will.

Watch the video below to teach your kids some knife skills.

Birthdays are one milestone that can be used to tell the child they’re now old enough to learn a new skill—to operate a lawn-mower, for example. In this way chores become a rite of passage and matter of pride for the growing child.

Be prepared to flex a bit—you can pull back from allowing a child to do a particular task if they clearly don’t have the physical strength, coordination or maturity. You could also work alongside them for a bit longer than you originally envisioned.

While a younger child will need to be asked to help with a task every time, an older child can be expected to remember to do a particular chore every day or once a week—feeding a pet, for example. For primary-aged children, a roster or chart is a fun way to remind them of their responsibilities. High-schoolers will probably respond better to an electronic reminder.

Printable chore chart – article

3. Keep it positive and relational

Use age-appropriate chores as an opportunity to affirm your child. Thank them for helping and tell them what a good job they’ve done. As they grow they’ll be able to appreciate more specific feedback; that they did a task quickly, thoroughly or with some extra loving details. If the positives are emphasised, the negatives will be less discouraging. Because, as children grow, the negatives need to be pointed out.

Don’t expect a learning child to get it right every time—you may need to give a little demonstration on the finer points, more than once. Avoid an exasperated response of, “For goodness sake, forget it; I’ll just finish it myself!” If you can work together to complete a task “properly” the child can enjoy the satisfaction of a job well done.

You’re developing resilience—teaching your child how to deal with criticism—as well as having a bonding moment as you mentor your child in important life skills. Sticking at a task until it’s properly completed—including cleaning up afterwards—is a character attribute worth fighting for. Insist. They’ll hate you now; they’ll appreciate it later . . . possibly much later.

4. Keep it consistent and fair

Teaching your child self-discipline requires parental self-discipline. For older children, try to maintain a regular schedule of chores so that the expectations are clear. If the schedule is agreed together as a family and posted on the fridge for all to see it will be easier to enforce. There’ll also be less argument when penalties are applied for failure to complete chores.

While we’re on that, try to make the penalties match the crime—”No dinner for you until the dog has had his dinner,” for example; “He goes hungry, you go hungry.”

Children often have a strong sense of justice; they’ll compare their chores with those of other family members—especially their siblings. They’ll also notice (or imagine) differences in their respective responsibilities. Be ready with your reasons—and this can be where our list of age-appropriate chores below can come in handy: “Because she’s younger”; “Because she also brings the bins in.” Or be ready to adjust the chores regime if your child has a legitimate point.

A child will often develop a dislike for a particular chore—they’ll hate it even more if they feel permanently saddled with it. One strategy is to swap chores from time to time—it deals with any niggling “not fair” complaints as well as teaching kids how to complete a wider range of household tasks.

Try to be aware of gender too: depending on your family background it may be easy to unconsciously identify certain chores as “boys’ jobs” or “girls’ jobs”. Try to avoid this. Every child deserves the opportunity to learn the full range of indoor and outdoor household skills—you never know what kind of living arrangements they’ll have as adults. You may also have to push yourself to lead by example; look at how the adults in the household divide the workload and, together, do your best to achieve a fair division of labour between the sexes. Otherwise, be prepared for some stern words from your household’s emerging feminist.

Relevant: My kids didn’t expect this after they failed to do their chores—again

5. Keep it interesting

Most young children will participate readily in a job that has been creatively tweaked. Folding the laundry can become a guessing game: “Whose undies are these?!” And what’s not to like about The Clean Dishes Song—the one you just made up on the spot?

Older children will respond to competitions and challenges. If the stakes are heightened by the prospect of a reward or a looming deadline, so much the better—”If we can get the yard mowed and tidied by 11 o’clock we can go to the beach for a swim and an ice-cream!” [Hint: this strategy also works on parents.]

For regular daily chores a star chart is a good way for children to track their progress towards a goal—”Two weeks in a row of remembering to put your dirty clothes in the laundry basket without being asked will earn you a trip to the movies!” Yes, this is dangerously close to a “chores for pocket money” scam, but let’s concede that sometimes a little extra motivation can go a long way.

Should you pay your children to do chores?

Age-appropriate chores for primary school kids. Young girl standing in front of sink doing the dishes

That’s a decision that’s entirely up to you, but here’s what two mums have to say:


Eugenie Pepper (Sydney, New South Wales)

I pay my kids to do chores. Some say chores are a responsibility children should do without pay and that kids should do them anyway, but mine wouldn’t. I finally got my kids to help with chores by implementing a point system: the amount of money they get depends on how many jobs they do in a week. They do the job and they get paid accordingly. Different levels of pay are associated with different tasks. So if they want to earn more, then they work harder, do more jobs and get more money.

My daughter is eight years old and my son is nine, and they have really gotten motivated since we started using incentives, or as others may say, since we started bribing them! It is working for us. Finally, my kids are so keen to help out and do jobs around the house. I am loving it. They are sweeping the floor, emptying and loading the dishwasher, making their beds, vacuuming and more.

I think giving kids pocket money gives them an understanding of the value of money. By giving my children pocket money, it helps them learn how much things cost and in doing so, teaches the value of money. The pocket money goes straight into their savings account so they are learning about savings. They can see how putting regular small amounts of their pocket money away each week results in being able to treat themselves to something big that they want at the end of the year.

I also think pocket money is teaching kids that if they work hard, they will reap the rewards. I think it contributes to a good work ethic and I hope it will inspire them to become entrepreneurial: if you put in the effort you will get a reward.

Would not…

Belinda Manna (Sydney, New South Wales)

Children should not be educated with a return. Giving children chores within your household teaches responsibility and independence; offering money as a reward is robbing them of understanding the purpose of these key fundamental lessons in life. Giving money to your child to take the rubbish out, clean their room or cut the grass is to say, “Only through work you will be rewarded.”

Money is a gift. As a parent, you should love your child and show this without them having to do something for you. It’s great for a child to help around the house but money, in my opinion, is not the way to go. We should be giving money because of love not because of slavery.

Children are a blessing and should be treated as so. If you communicate with your child and give them the ability to understand why their chores are important as a family and are a gift—because of the love of helping the family, and being a part of it—they would want to help.

Money should be hidden and placed in a bank until they are old enough to access it. This is important to our Italian culture, as we believe money is the root of all evil. If you start raising a child where they get used to receiving money for every move they make, you are encouraging a greedy child and greed is one of the seven deadly sins from a religious point of view.

Free Printable: Age-appropriate chores

Print out the list of age-appropriate chores below, put it up on your fridge to remind you—and your kids—of the jobs they can do around the house.

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